![]() She usually had like two things of luggage. So it would save Sheila money, because it’s more expensive out here, but also weight. I would bring about an equal amount of orange juice, cranberry juice, like cans of them, because they were cheap in the commissary. I would bring a whole bunch of bottled water, and it’s cheap there, like 25 cents a bottle or something like that, like small 16 oz bottles. Joe: I would bring beverages because beverages can be heavy. Joe and Sheila got their food routine down to a science. Or too many ounces.” During the counts in particular, a person might say … “Hey, can I borrow an egg? My wife forgot to bring the eggs, man.” And people are always like, “Oh sure, I’ve got some eggs,” or, “I’ve got some milk.” You know, “We don’t have any milk because they said the size of the container was too large. Joe: They had to ask other people in the unit, meaning other families. If you weren’t paying close attention, your food could be confiscated before you got to the trailer - then you had to improvise. You could bring bagels or muffins but not ones with poppy seeds - they might show up as heroin on a drug test, and Joe was tested before, during and after every visit. There were all sorts of rules, though: You could bring steaks, but not steaks with bones. One of the best things about the trailers was that you got to bring groceries and cook your own meals. So, it’s me and four other guys all standing there, waiting for the CO to open the gate, and then he or she counts, and it goes, “One, two, three, four, okay that’s it.” It was only four units, so we’re all standing on the count. I mean we get up early so I wasn’t concerned about the day ones as much as the evening, because we’d be tired. So once in the morning, and it’s different from prison to prison, but once, let’s say 7 in the morning, and there’s on might be at 11 ish, like close to noon, then there might be another one at 3 or 4, like when the new shift comes in. Joe: So the count I think was about four times a day. It was really, really something, and it gave me - and, I imagine, Sheila - something to look forward to.īut four times a day - morning, lunchtime, afternoon, and night - a loudspeaker would crackle, and Joe would hear a voice say, “Robinson, step out for the count.” Joe: gave us a sense of normalcy. We were able to cook together, we’d dance, we would watch TV, we’d dream together. She’d arrive, and then they’d close the door of the trailer, and do their best to feel at home. So I’d be on the site before she got there, making sure it’s cozy as best as I could. The families got processed after we got processed. Joe: So I would get in first … Even though there are like porters that clean the trailers, I would still go over and clean the trailers while I was waiting for Sheila to get processed. You know, you go in one afternoon, so you’d have lunch and dinner together, then you’d have a whole day, and then you’re gone the next morning. But as far as the families are concerned, it’s about time. I mean, it’s a trailer…įamily visits are intended to help people who are incarcerated maintain some kind of connection to life outside - as far as the state is concerned, it’s about reducing the chance that they’ll come back to prison. And you know like an open space, like open concept. Joe: Like there’s just like you know like two little rooms, two small bedrooms, very small, bathroom. Sheila: There’s a living area, like a little living room, kitchen, television. The trailers are like little mobile homes, parked on prison grounds. People have their kids come and visit, or their parents. “Going on a trailer” is not strictly about sex. And even though it took six months for their application to be approved, Joe and Sheila were lucky: Joe was in a state facility in New York, one of only four states that has a family visiting program. That meant they could apply for what’s popularly known as a “conjugal visit” - an overnight stay, which would be their first time alone together. Joe and Sheila started exchanging letters while he was incarcerated, and after two and a half years, they got married. And for one of those couples, Sheila Rule and Joe Robinson, getting married meant building a relationship in the narrow windows of opportunity allowed by the prison system. ![]() On this week’s show, we got two couples to tell us their stories. Marriage comes down to a story - one that two people are telling together.
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